Dating someone with 4 kids
She was pretty informal and laid-back about it; she and the kids pretend-fought a lot but they (grudgingly) conceded that she was the Mom and got to make final decisions (while openly rolling their eyes or giggling about some of those decisions) and she didn't mind them seeing her as a mortal and fallible person making the in-charge decisions and didn't act all authoritarian, and so they negotiated day to day and the kids grew up and seem pretty well-adjusted.
I like kids and I'd be OK with doing it again, although that would mean reversing the age dynamics at this point (I'm 53).
I also thought paying child support meant your child’s needs were met.
I didn’t realize bills stretch far beyond a daycare’s door.
I wish I read her work before I became a co-parent.
In my twenties, I dated a lot of women, and thought I would be okay with it. doesnt discipline their kids, has drama with the other parent, or is unable to assert authority over their S. I wonder if they would do it again if they ever became single again. I did it at age 21, my first ongoing adult relationship was with a 36 year old woman with 3 kids.
But as I got older, I realized in hindsight I wasnt ready to have kids yet. Not everyone is a bad parent or has a lot of bad parent-child drama that you've got to cope with.
So yesterday, Deesha and I sat down to lunch–we ate our favorite Thai food and discussed our not so favorite topic–co-parenting through problems and over obstacles.
I asked her what six things should women know when dating men with children. If a man says, my child’s mother won’t let me see my kids, dig deeper, because while the family court system is broken, sometimes men say they aren’t allowed see their children when they haven’t sought parenting time through a judge.